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The time spent in long-term care can be one of growth, emotional healing, and creativity for residents, staff, and family members.  If you’re wondering how to get there from here, please look through this site and read my blog, where you’ll find answers that will allow you to create positive change instantly, whether you’re a CEO, a CNA, or seeing a loved one in long-term care.

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"My goal is to make long-term care a place I'd want to live when it's my turn, using my training as a psychologist."

Recent Blog Posts

Carer Helping Senior Man With Walking Frame

A good perspective on residents

Dr. El - July 29, 2015 - Customer service, Inspiration

During a recent senior living conference, I was staying at the well-appointed Embassy Suites in Norman, Oklahoma. The key card to open the room came in a small folder. When I took out my key I found a statement on the folder that struck me as being completely relevant to long-term care and an excellent […]

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Betta fish

Diabetes care: Take two betta fish and call me in a week

Dr. El - July 22, 2015 - McKnight's Long-Term Care News, Medication issues, Resident education/Support groups

Here’s my latest article on McKnight’s Long-Term Care News: Diabetes care: Take two betta fish and call me in a week More than 25% of the US population over the age of 65 years has diabetes1 and the numbers are far higher for those in long-term care. (Approximately one third of nursing home residents have […]

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WHCOA

WHCOA: LeadingAge Summary

Dr. El - July 15, 2015 - Communication, Dementia, Inspiration, Technology, Transitions in care

I wrote about the White House Conference on Aging last October, noting that it was a “once-a-decade” national conference about the needs of our aging population.” (McKnight’s LTC News, October 2014) Below, LeadingAge summarizes the 2015 White House Conference on Aging, which took place on Monday: 10 Things that Happened at the White House Conference on […]

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Portrait of multi generations Indian family at home. Asian people living lifestyle.

Creating Better Deaths in Long-Term Care

Dr. El - July 8, 2015 - Communication, End of life, Engaging with families, McKnight's Long-Term Care News, Resident education/Support groups

Here’s my latest article on McKnight’s Long-Term Care News: Creating Better Deaths in Long-Term Care I walked into Mr. Hobart’s room, ready for my initial evaluation. He was a thin, graying man whose loose clothes hung in folds around him. He’d spent every day last week in chemo. He spoke quietly, discussing his estrangement from […]

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My Better Nursing Home

How to Talk About Dying (Ellen Goodman, NYTimes)

Dr. El - July 2, 2015 - Communication, End of life, Engaging with families, Resident care

Here’s an important article in the New York Times Opinionator Column by Ellen Goodman, one of the founders of The Conversation Project (which I’m about to investigate further). Note her comment that she expected her mother’s doctors to tell her what to do. The families of our residents are expecting the same from us. How to Talk […]

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The Goodbye Guide: Why and how to terminate tenderly in LTC

Dr. El - June 24, 2015 - Business Strategies, Communication, McKnight's Long-Term Care News, Resident care

Here’s my latest article on McKnight’s Long-Term Care News: The Goodbye Guide: Why and how to terminate tenderly in LTC An experienced colleague was recently let go from her job to which she’d been dedicated for 10 years. “We want to take things in a different direction,” she was told by the administrator. “Pack up […]

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Harnessing gratitude

Dr. El - June 10, 2015 - Depression/Mental illness/Substance Abuse, McKnight's Long-Term Care News, Psychology Research Translated, Resident education/Support groups

Here’s my latest article on McKnight’s Long-Term Care News: Harnessing Gratitude Though it was close to 20 years ago, I’ll never forget the reaction of one of my patients to losing both of her legs to diabetes. “I’m 81 years old and I’ve traveled and danced as much as I could. I wasn’t sick a […]

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Big family together sisters and mother

Strengthening Troubled Sibling Bonds to Deal With an Aging Parent (NYTimes)

Dr. El - June 5, 2015 - Communication, Engaging with families

I’m writing to you from my hotel room in Ontario, Canada today, where I’m finishing up some last minute details before heading out to give a training program on preventing senior bullying (iron suit — check!).   This week’s post comes from Abby Ellin, writing in the NYTimes Money column about the use of elder […]

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Psychologists open up about LTC sex and dementia

Dr. El - May 27, 2015 - Dementia, Engaging with families, McKnight's Long-Term Care News, Resident care, Role of psychologists

Here’s my latest article on McKnight’s Long-Term Care News: Psychologists open up about LTC sex and dementia A recent Iowa court case acquitted Henry Rayhons of sexually abusing his wife, who had Alzheimer’s dementia and lived in a nursing home. The case not only prompted national debate, it led those in long-term care to consider […]

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Free Webinar 5/20 @2pm ET: 9 Ways to Improve the Effectiveness of your Social Work Department & Increase LTC Resident Satisfaction

Dr. El - May 18, 2015 - Business Strategies, Customer service, Depression/Mental illness/Substance Abuse, Engaging with families, Motivating staff, Talks/Radio shows

Join Dr. El Wednesday, May 20th at 2pm Eastern Time (1pm Central Time) for a FREE Webinar on 9 Ways to Improve the Effectiveness of your Social Work Department & Increase LTC Resident Satisfaction sponsored by EmLogis To register: visit EmLogis Events About the webinar: Are your residents depressed, their families distressed, and your staff […]

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